The letter below
was a request for advice with regards to a
personal problem. Due to the great number of such letters received,
this letter is being published for general benefit.
... I am now living with my in-laws
and life has become very difficult. My husband is very unfair to me.
He cares more for his mother and sisters while I get the ‘back seat’
for everything. I am treated like dirt while he thinks the world of
them. My husband has now decided to go for Umrah and intends to take
his mother and sisters along but does not intend taking me with him....
A wife generally has such intense love for
her husband that she always tends to regard her husband’s love for her
as deficient and lacking. She remains under the misconception that the
husband has no feelings for her whereas in reality the husband has
great love for his wife. However, the wife's intense love demands that
the husband’s affection and love for his mother, sisters, friends,
etc. should also be directed towards her. Nevertheless I make Dua to
Allah Ta’ala that He make your husband most loving towards you and
enable him to fulfil your rights.
Whatever difficulties you experience from
your husband, regard it as a means of the forgiveness of your sins. By
exercising patience you will gain the nearness of Allah Ta’ala.
Whoever your husband wishes to take for
Umrah, he will also receive the full reward of their Umrah. Despite
having the desire to accompany him, by adopting sabr (if he
does not take you along) you will also receive the full reward of your
husbands Ibadah as well as a separate reward for exercising
May Allah Ta’ala instill
complete love between you and your husband.
published. Apparently the writer complained that upon seeing the
wealth of others, he desires the same for himself. Hence he requested
a remedy to clean one’s heart from the greed of this world.
REPLY: Bismihi Ta’ala
Brother! Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah
...Have a firm conviction that whatever
Allah Ta’ala has decreed for you, you will most certainly receive it.
Nobody can ever stop it. Likewise if Allah Ta’ala has not decreed
something for you, you will never ever acquire it. One’s sustenance
seeks one in exactly the same manner that one’s death pursues one. If
a person hides away in a secure fortress, death will find him there as
well. Similarly one’s sustenance will reach one wherever one may be.
Until one has not received one’s decreed sustenance, death will not
As for the wealth in the possession of
others, one does not know whether it is the income of interest,
bribery, or whether it was earned from a haraam transaction, etc. One
is also totally unaware whether there is any azaab (punishment)
hovering above that wealth (if it was earned in a haraam
manner). It is clear that if such wealth comes to one, it will bring
along the azaab with it. Thus it is akin to seeing a snake or
scorpion in someone’s pocket and to desire that the same comes into
one’s own pocket. It is obvious that the snake will come together with
its poison and the scorpion will come along with its sting. Which
intelligent person will ever desire such a thing? May Allah Ta’ala
grant you halaal sustenance and may He bless you with
qana’ah (contentment). Without qana’ah, one’s greed will
(The writer requested some advice and duas.)
Brother As Salaamu
May Allah Ta'ala enable you to fulfil all
your obligations and responsibilities with ease. May He also make many
people to take benefit from you and assist you in every difficulty
from the unseen sources (ghaib).
When you departed, I had
advised you to be extremely particular of how your time is being
spent. Be very vigilant about this. Whatever time passes well, make
shukr to Allah Ta'ala for it.
If anybody treats you with love and respect,
regard it as the Grace of Allah Ta'ala that He has placed love and
respect for you in that persons heart. Otherwise, it was possible that
the same person could have been an arch enemy who hates you. Hence
consider it the Grace of Allah Ta'ala that He has concealed your
faults. He forgives all sins and conceals the faults of people.
Do not place total realiance on any person
and divulge all your secrets to him, nor have any enmity with any
person. Treat every person with husne akhlaaq (good character).
The one who at present kisses your hands with great love could
tomorrow end up swearing at you. Therefore, always adopt a moderate
approach in your dealings with people and be careful in this regard.
Was Salaam (Maktoobaat
- vol.1, pg.111)
Respected Mufti Saheb
Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah
What must one meditate on while reciting
Istighfaar, Durood Shareef, the Third Kalimah, Laa ilaaha illallah and
during the recitation of the Qur'an Shareef?
REPLY: Bismihi Ta'ala
Brother! Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi
When reciting Istighfaar imagine that you
are completely soiled with the filth of sins from head to toe. With
the recitation of Istighfaar your sins are gradually being washed
away. Think that just as a dirty cloth which is left under a running
tap is gradually purified of the dirt and filth, likewise with the
barakat of Istighfaar my sins are being washed away and my heart is
While reciting Durood Shareef imagine that
the angels are presenting the gift of Durood Shareef from me, a
sinner, to Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) and Rasulullah (sallallahu
alaihi wasallam) is pleased with it.
While making zikr of the third kalimah and
reciting subhanallah meditate that Allah Ta'ala is free of
every blemish, upon reciting alhamdulillah that every
perfection and greatness solely belongs to Allah Ta'ala. Meditate upon
saying la ilaha illalah that there is none worthy of
giving one's heart to and worthy of total allegiance besides Allah
When you say Allahu Akbar that Allah
Ta'ala is greater than everything that I have perceived and even
greater that what I have not perceived.
During recitation of the Qur'an ponder that
you are reciting to Allah Ta'ala. Recite as a child recites to his
Ustaad (with utmost care and full concentration).
Was Salaam (Tarbiyatut Taalibeen pg.78)